About Me
Ladies! I could break the ice by telling you a penis joke, but the truth is, I do not really want to appear too cocky.
Who Am I? 🤔
My name is Ella Adair. I am 42 and I have spent the past seventeen years studying sex, unofficially since I was a teen! It is my favourite subject! I studied psychology and became a sex therapist, combining the two; trying to understand more around relationships and our sexual desires as well as the psychological and physiological drivers, looking further into the impediments that prevent our sexual fulfillment and empowerment.
What I Do? 😀
I work with ladies and men, singles, and couples, of various sexual preferences and identities, now with a focus on delivering this therapy and guidance through this virtual platform. The era we live in now is becoming less comfortable with face to face therapy – it is becoming increasingly more popular to find answers and solutions online. Let’s be honest here, it’s also a bit less intimidating too!
Ladies, the bottom line is, sexual freedom is not that easy for us and as we get older, our bodies change, our self-esteem changes and the sexual script that has been thrown at us our whole life seems to amplify as we progress into the wiser years.
You deserve a strong, happy and comfortable relationship with yourself, your body, your mind, and with a partner. I am here to arouse your curiosity so you can arouse your sexuality and feel more content and hopefully more turned on. Our sex life affects our wellbeing – emotionally and physically! Sexual freedom and contentedness are a right!
I am an educator, empowerment coach, writer, psychologist, psychotherapist, sex therapist and sexpert. My desire for women to feel confident and empowered is embedded in all I do, not just for the short term, but for the rest of their lives and whatever is going on in your life, I can help you work it out.
Explore my site! Check out some of my articles and get in touch if I can help you some more!
Ella.💕
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So, ladies...
What Do You Think About Sex?
If I asked you how you feel about eating a warm and moist chocolate mud cake, with vanilla ice-cream and extra fudge sauce you would honestly share with me how it makes you feel. If I ask you how you feel about sex, the chances are that you will most likely feel uncomfortable and not share so much. Why is that? Both are tapping into your personal areas of desire, sensation, stimulation and taste but one is acceptable to openly discuss and the other, well, you have been raised to ‘not’ discuss it openly quite the same way.
How we experience sexuality has so much to do with our bodies; how we like to touch, be touched, and how we respond to different kinds of stimulation but also what we have been taught about sex since our first memory. We have learned how to think about sex, what to think about sex and what we know and believe about relationships. Every single one of us has learned differently, so each of us have different ideas. Is it any wonder why it can become so complicated to discuss… or even do?
Ladies, you may have been raised to never discuss masturbation. Ohhhh noooo!!! Self-stimulation is totally inappropriate to talk about and maybe even consider, and only men do it, right? Perhaps you have learned quite the opposite and that it is ok to enjoy. (Of course, it is!) If you want to try anal, then you must be weird? (Err no you are not!) You want a three-some, but this makes you feel like a bit of a slut. Maybe you want your other half to go down on you and you just do not know how to ask them? How you feel about all of these is neither right or wrong, but what is right is if you want to have a go at a new experience and explore your sexuality some more, then you can!
Physiological issues impact our sex lives, but more often it is in our minds. Ladies, did you know that stress can trigger you to tighten your pelvic floor muscles leading to painful sex? Did you know that stress tricks the brain and unconsciously you sense being ‘not safe’ which plays havoc with sexual desire and arousal? Medical conditions can severely affect our sexual abilities but so can our minds. Hun, if you are not ‘feeling it’ then neither will you ‘want’ to feel it. If you don’t feel overly desirable, or comfortable in your skin, then are you going to give yourself permission to enjoy intimacy?
Our upbringings, parents, sibling, educators, the media and partners all have contributed to our opinions of sex and sexual acts, but this can change at any time and the only one responsible for your sexual freedom is Mr Sutra himself! No… that was a total fib… it is YOU!
What is considered normal or abnormal largely comes from cultural beliefs and you my friend, can go ahead, and do whatever the heck you feel like with your body. Of course, a few provisos exist – it must legal, it cannot impact yours or anyone else’s health or safety of course, it feels comfortable to you and lastly, you have consented. If you tick each of these boxes, then you are free to explore!
If you are still not convinced, then explore my site a little more before you explore yourself! I can help you with whatever it is holding you back.
