SEXUAL THERAPY & CONSULTATION
Need A 1-On-1 Sexual Therapy? 🤝
So, the word ‘sex’ is in the therapy so there absolutely must be nudity, touching and intimate examinations? Absolutely not.
Sex therapy is a form of psychotherapy and talk therapy. I work with you one on one, or with you and your partner, to open-up the conversation and talk about sex with each other. I am comfortable talking about sex, and as you engage with me, you will become more comfortable too. While nothing is off-limits and nothing is taboo to talk about, most of you have trouble bringing up anything when it comes to sex. Couples do not have an erotic language to describe their wishes and often ladies will not talk to their friends about how to renew their sexual desire. Men do not ask their mates how to bring a woman to orgasm (could you imagine that over a beer?) and they will certainly not discuss their erections over a stubby. Doctors are only introduced to sex therapy training in medical school ever so slightly, and even gynaecologists and urologists know little around this topic. Physicians are experts at talking about how the body works but limited by their own experience when it comes to solving sex problems. This is where a sexpert can help.
As a therapist, I know how anxious you might feel talking about this intimate subject with each other and with a near-stranger. I am here to help set you at ease and guide you into talking about sex, but through my refreshed online approach, together we can perhaps dig a little deeper.
Sex therapy aims to get to the root of the problem. Singles and couples engage in sex therapy, and without the help of a sex therapist, often can’t solve these intimate issues on their own because disappointment, hurt, anger, resentment, accusations, inhibition, and several rounds of fighting might have shut down the very discussion most needed.
Research shows that most people who could have easily solved their problems wait at least six years before seeking help! Anxiety is the number one reason people do not ever ask for help. Fear of confronting the problem and discovering that they are truly not compatible is so powerful that they delay and delay, feeling more hopeless every day. But most often, a those in sex therapy find a way to feel more pleasure and more joy.
Feel free to contact me for a discreet chat as to whether sex therapy could work for you. Remember, it is not only for couples! Sex therapy seeks to work out what is holding you back from feeling sexually empowered and fulfilled.
Ella.💕
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
As a face to face therapist and Sexpert, I watch the discomfort on my sofa within the faces of those who have been struggling… and I do not mean sexually.
Today we are a technological society. We send our close friend a message on their birthday. We create a Facebook post to wish our mum a Happy Mother’s Day and we use written words to hide behind our often confusing, emotions, but that does not mean that they are not real. All emotions and thoughts are there not to be ignored, and they come from somewhere but as a society, it is becoming incredibly painful to have these open conversations, so expecting people to share around sexuality and fears is an even tougher challenge.
You need to feel heard, justified and looked after. You need to feel you can have an intimate conversation with me, with no judgement, in confidence and in a way that works for you.
Through my online approach, I am here for you when it suits you. We do not need to schedule a time together; you do not need to take time away from work and family commitments to travel and meet with me and we work out together what you may be needing, or looking for.
I do not take a ‘one size fits all’ approach – my approach is unique to you. I do not tell you what you need. We work it out together. You have all the answers – I ask the questions, offer the guidance, and provide the tools for you to then utilise and apply within your world.
You contact me then I ask a few questions to help work out the most suitable approach. I make three recommendations: short term, medium-term and long-term approaches. You decide which approach suits you, and the level of investment you can afford, and we make a start. All contact is through an online platform, either message or email and we discuss frequency and timeframes when we explore further what you might be needing.
Then I have more questions… I want your story and you know that I am a knowledgeable professional with no boundaries to our conversations, so you can share your story with me in confidence… and together we move into a space where you feel you are making progress or improvements.
It will! From our very first chat, if you are at least 80% open and honest with me you will already feel empowered and positive around it. I do not need 100% openness but to really benefit from what I offer, then 100% commitment will see ultimate benefits.
As long as you would like or need! My clients often learn more about themselves through my therapy or coaching after a few once a week sessions, than they ever realised before and become quite hooked on exploring themselves further. You might only want one chat, or you might want several… again, we work that out together.
Say hello & away we go.