So, in my first ever sexual therapy session, my client asked me, “What if this doesn’t work?”

I had not even thought about whether it would work or not, and by the end of the course of sessions all their fears had melted away and been replaced with genuine hope and comfort.  What does matter is whether you are needing therapy or coaching, and how do you know?

Sex therapy and sex coaching are quite interlinked.  How I separate the two is below:

Therapy – using conversation to explore deeper into you and perhaps your relationship, to get to the root of what may be holding you back sexually, as an individual or couple.

Coaching – through conversation, encouraging you, empowering you and helping you to believe in yourself as a sexual confident being, with yourself, with others and within any relationship.

You need to feel heard, justified and looked after.  You need to feel you can have an intimate conversation with me, with no judgement, in confidence and in a way that works for you.  Through my online approach, I am here for you when it suits you.  We do not need to schedule a time together; you do not need to take time away from work and family commitments to travel and meet with me.

It might be 11pm, the family are in bed and you have some quiet time with your thoughts, and most often this is the best time for a little self-reflection.  My job as a therapist and coach is to help you understand what and why you are feeling the way you do when even you may be unsure.

Through either, I offer genuinely helpful tasks, advice and guidance to aid you on your sexuality journey, which by the way, started a long time ago and only finishes when you kick the bucket! Our sexual journey is a lifetime experience and what we take for granted is accepting that it will remain a continual changing area for each of us our whole lives. 

I worked with a couple once, who had been married twenty-two years, both were in their late 40s and both were happily open about sex. They loved it and still had high libidos only there was something missing, so they came to me.  Can you guess what the root of their problem was?  Both of them, appreciated that they were aging and as they had been together since early 20s, both of them had become a little insecure around their body image.  Sound familiar, hey?  Well, once they both figured out that BOTH of them were feeling EXACTLY THE SAME this opened the door to unlimited conversations and exploration and I watched them suddenly realign, refocus and restart on a new refreshed sexual adventure as forty-something year olds, rather than trying to remain in a twenty-something year old’s body.  Make sense?  They did not need to re-love themselves, or change their bodies, they just needed to communicate, share and embrace change so they could once again feel sexually fulfilled.

What you want and what you deserve are waiting for you. Feeling sexually confident as a human being is your right and feeling confident in the bedroom really has very little to do with how you act… but how you feel.

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Ella.💕