Guys! Did you know that around 95% of heterosexual men orgasm during sex with a woman? Only between 50 – 70% of women orgasm through sex with a guy. But I have great news for you – it is not all on YOU! A female’s body is not so straight forward and only around 60% of women can reach climax through solely penis penetration.
Some women prefer to reach orgasm through stimulating her clitoris, but honestly, most girls need you to not only penetrate, but stimulate! It’s true… most ladies need both the clit and insides stimulated together if we want to have a mind-blowing climax.
If I were to ask blokes if their missus reached climax when they last had sex, 85% of you would say yes but around 64% of ladies would say that they did. Did your missus really climax the last time you had sex? How do you know? How do you really know?
The problem for some men, is that many women fake orgasms because it is really tricky for them to reach full stimulation. I kid you not! They have all the best intent behind the façade, but the reality is, if they are faking it, then they risk misguiding you and miscommunicating their pleasure zones with you. She could very well have been faking her orgasms for your whole marriage! (I doubt it though.) If she has, this might explain why she doesn’t want sex as often as you do.
With the clitoris, some ladies prefer up and down, whereas some prefer circular motion. Some prefer a firm touch, whereas some prefer a softer approach. You will find that there is one specific touch that will send her into orgasm and if you don’t know, then ask her! You also need to make lube your friend – the more moisture, then the more sensitivity and I suggest a yummy flavoured lube.
So, you are reading this to maybe gain a little more insight into getting your woman over the edge. Righto gents, so here it is. I will not beat around the bush and neither should you.
- Oral
Go down on her! BUT before you do build up to it! Kiss, caress, touch, tickle and then build up to it! Treat every single touch as if it is sexually stimulating and when you do go down on her, remember she has breasts! Some women prefer the breasts before you go a little lower, but here’s where you ask her. This is about pleasuring HER so simply ask what she likes, how she likes it. Oh, a little tip for you; you could say ‘how does this feel?’ or you could ask ‘do you like it this way?’ as you do it. Some women feel intimidated talking during sexual activities, and some do not like to make any sound at all. This does not mean they are not enjoying it, just this is the way they are. Don’t forget that lube – even a yummy flavoured lube so you enjoy it more.
- Take your Time
Did you know on average a guy only needs about 15 minutes of intercourse to climax? A woman needs about 30… at a minimum! The more effort you invest into your foreplay, then the more aroused she will become and the higher the chance of her reaching orgasm during penetration will be. If this is just a ‘quickie’ for you both, then the chances are, she knows that she isn’t going to climax (honestly, most women will not climax in a quickie) so foreplay is not so essential (sometimes there’s just no point or she might already be naturally aroused because of how much she is craving you). If it is not a quickie then invest as long as you can into the foreplay. Some women might take an hour of stimulation to reach orgasm, so if your woman climaxing through sex with you is important – hang in there! Then hang in there a bit longer!
- Your Relationship
So, an orgasm for a woman does not just happen, right? You cannot turn a lady on easily, work your magic finger, whop inside her, and pump a little to pop the orgasm of the century. Sorry to dampen your spirits with my bluntness, but your relationship plays a key role in whether she will climax. She is a sensitive, emotional creature who needs so much more than just the physical stimulation. She needs you to help make her happy, for you to communicate with her, share with her, be intimate with her, shower with her, compliment her and perhaps consider a massage or asking her to dress up for you. Not all women want the same though, so it is really important that you ask her, but even just you asking her will prove to her that this is about her pleasure and not just yours.
One last tip, gents! Please share with your woman what you like, what you want and how you like to be touched. She wants to pleasure you just as much as you want to pleasure her, but communication is key to a happy and healthy sex life. Do not be shy… you are just about to get naked with her, now is not the time to get shy.
Check out my article on sexting! This is sometimes better than foreplay… go on! I dare you!