Ladies! Do you want to give the best ever blowjob you have ever gifted your man with? Maybe it is his birthday, maybe he deserves some extra TLC or maybe, just maybe you have not been down on him for a while and would like to spice things up. Well, this is 100% guaranteed to blow his mind, and something else too!
- Lights On
This is not happening in the dark! You are going to let your bloke SEE you, FEEL you and lay back and totally ENJOY you! You are about to have full control and my friend; this is going to turn you on as much as it will him. Leaving the lights on gives you more power and control.
- Build it Up
Whatever you do, do not lay him down and go straight in for the kill! Start with a kiss, a caress and be super slow and steady… use your whole body to arouse him. Use your fingers, your stomach, your breasts, your cheek, your tongue… even your toes… As you move your upper body over and around, allow yourself to glide over him, touching sensitive spots and sending his central nervous system into an uncontrollable rage. The feeling of your breasts over him, on him and against him will send him nuts.
- Tease
The beauty of oral sex is that YOU are in full control and this can be a massive turn on for him. Do not touch his penis straight up. Once you have touched, licked, kissed and caressed almost every other part of his body facing you, then start to work the inner thigh and groin area. He will be hanging out for your lips around him by this stage but work it slowly. Go slow… then go three times slower.
- Hang on!
Do not go for the penis yet!! Be patient… the build up and teasing before the actual blowjob are imperative. You are wanting as maximum chemical release within him that you can muster, so really taking your time with the foreplay before the foreplay is key here. Even think about going back to the neck, and slowly working your way back down again… just in case you missed a sensitive spot.
- Work that tongue!
Before going for the penis, tickle the testicles with your tongue, go behind the testes and around… go back to the inner thigh and really tease him until the legs are tensing and you know he is struggling. When you get to this point, you know it is time to begin on the penis.
- Eye contact
Have you any idea what happens when you look him in the eyes when you take him in? This eye contact, held for only a few seconds will release even more oxytocin and send him crazy with desire and crave for you. This is the bonding hormone in the both of you, so begin to take him into your mouth whilst you look into each other. It might feel a little odd for you at first, but the benefits are huge.
- Stay in Charge
At this point he is going to be wanting you, and he will be wanting to control you but stay in control. Control the speed, the depth, the firmness and have fun. Blow, kiss, lick, suck, tickle and caress continuously, on his penis and over his body using yours.
- Use your Hand
If taking him in deep is feeling uncomfortable, then hold the base of his shaft, and use a steady rhythm with your hand and mouth together. Play with his penis as though you are enjoying it. The more he feels you enjoying it, the more stimulated he will become.
- Flavoured Lube
So, sucking on a penis might not be your thing, but my secret is Salted Caramel Lube!! Oh my, It will make you want to eat him and you may find that you get thoroughly lost in the moment as you do begin to enjoy the taste, texture and strength of the salted caramel member. A little extra moisture is also incredibly sexy!
- Comfort Check-in
If any of what you are doing makes you feel uncomfortable then you need to stop, or slow down. You can take oral sex to whatever level you like, and you decide on how long. If you have had enough after a few minutes, then you are allowed to pull up, but remember to communicate with him about it and maybe suggest that you’d like him to now play with you.
- Pace
Ask him during the fun whether he enjoys the pace. Check whether he wants it slower, faster, harder or gentler. Encourage him to talk to you and communicate his feelings around his pleasure levels with you. You may be impressed with how much you both learn about each other when you can communicate during sexual activities. It is a whole new level of openness.
- Lips
Take his penis out of your mouth and rub the head along the outline of your lips, slowly. Take the head in a little on and off, before rubbing it again against the outline again. This is a great way to break the motions and add a little change. It can also prevent him from climaxing too soon.
- Ice Cream
Treat his penis as though it is a yummy melting ice cream on a warm sunny day (even better with flavoured lube). Lick it up and down, altering pace and rhythm, but work your tongue and watch him get excited from the stimulation.
- Humming
The vibrations that come from you humming when he is inside your mouth will send him wild. He will love it. The sound can also be very sexual and add to the whole situation.
- Pain
You have nails! Use them. Scratch him gently as you work his penis and you will feel him squirm, but a little pain with pleasure heightens the arousal.
- Teeth
Use those teeth to glide up and down with! I know using the teeth are a given, but make sure you work the teeth, the tongue, and the lips.
- Testicles
Ok, so you know he is about to climax and whether you want this to be inside your mouth, or not is absolutely your call, however if you are ready for the climax, gently pull on his testicles, or better still caress behind them. The skin on the testes is so wafer-thin that the nerve endings are right there! Keen to explore a little more, then move your finger gently further back towards his bottom but this is very personal to you both, so stay within your comfort zones and just remember that whatever you do, do it slowly, steadily and gently. If he wants anything different, then you can talk about this afterwards.
Oral sex is fantastic! Your man is a gift to you, like you are a gift to him so embrace the intimate moments and remember that we can all improve in what we do, how we do it and when we do it.
Ella.💕