There can be a connection between how we feel about ourselves, and how we do or do not express ourselves sexually. It is not particularly straight-forward, and it varies from person to person.

While our personal sexual expression cannot be defined by anyone or any source other than ourselves, feeling good in our sexuality can be a tricky thing to figure out. There can be a lot of questions and plenty of trial and error when it comes to knowing who we are, what we like, and how we feel in our self and in relation to other people’s desires. 

If you are Authentically Sexually Empowered and live your life in alignment with your Erotic Authenticity, then you:

• Feel intimately connected to your sexual self.
• Identify and experience wants and desires without crossing the boundaries of another.
• Communicates needs, wants and desires without blame or shame.
• Accept rejection without taking it personally.
• Feel at home in your self and your body.
• Set authentic boundaries and mean it.
• Are educated about how your body, pleasure and relationships “work”.
• Understands and utilises available options for sexual expression and erotic experience.
• Feel fully sexually expressed and when you are not in full expression, you know how to get there.
• Thoughtfully explore sex and sexuality so that you can make clear distinctions about what’s right for you and what is not.
• Develop and use skills to make pleasureful, satisfying, fulfilling sex your norm.
• Form relationships and develops intimacy that supports the highest expression of your core energy.
• Express a range of emotions in healthy ways that do not harm yourself or others.
• Identify defence patterns in relationships and works to overcome them and replace them with healthy ways of connecting to others.
• Develop healthy coping skills for managing difficult emotions, grief and pain.
• Engage in clean, clear communication.
• Work to heal and release any shame, guilt or trauma around your sexuality.
• Heal the need to be competitive with others and to release patterns of lack, deprivation and feeling like you “can’t have it all”.
• Critically examine cultural messages about sexuality, gender and sex.
• Reject and challenge sexual stereotypes, assumptions, false ideas and cultural myths that hinder, impair, squash or dim your magnificent sexual self.
• Identify and experience erotic authenticity even when socially popular ideas pressure you to do or like something else.
• Explore and develop an authentic sexual identity and does not need to hide or shift that identity to feel comfortable and safe in your life.
• Know that you never have to settle and that choosing one key desire and forsaking another is a false choice.
• Make authentic sexual decisions.
• Experiences joy and pleasure regularly and as a norm in life.
• Develop your confidence and sexual self-esteem.
• Understand and live in alignment with your desires.
• Feel comfortable in yourself and lives freely in the world, from a place of self-intimacy.

If you are NOT feeling sexually empowered then after you read through the attributes above, ask yourself which ones do you not tick and why?  What changes can you start to make today, and gradually focus on over time to become more sexually empowered?

Is your mind a complete blank? If you are struggling to work out where you are with your sexual empowerment get in touch with me, and we can work through it together. Click here or the button below to chat with me.

Ella.💕