About Me
Gents! I will not stress over breaking the ice too much, but we will start with a solid approach to this sensitive topic. You are here to get stuck straight in so let us be direct and hopefully not too deep.
Who Am I? 🤔
My name is Ella Adair. I am 42 and I have spent the past seventeen years studying sex, unofficially since I was a teen! It is my favourite subject! I studied psychology and became a sex therapist, combining the two; trying to understand more around relationships and our sexual desires as well as the psychological and physiological drivers, looking further into the impediments that prevent our sexual fulfillment and empowerment.
What I Do? 😀
I work with ladies and men, singles, and couples, of various sexual preferences and identities now with a focus on delivering this therapy and guidance through this virtual platform. The era we live in now is becoming less comfortable with face to face therapy – it is becoming increasingly more popular to find answers and solutions online. Let’s be honest here, it’s also a bit less intimidating too!
Gents, the bottom line is, sexual freedom is not that easy for you and as you get older, your bodies change, your self-esteem changes and the sexual script that has been thrown at you your whole life seems to amplify as you age. This unspoken expectation of you in the bedroom exists and if you want to explore beyond the regular boundaries, well, to be frank, how do you bring this up with your partner?
You deserve a strong and content relationship with yourself, your body, your mind, and with a partner. I am here to arouse your curiosity and sexual understanding, so you can arouse your sexuality and feel more content and hopefully more turned on. Your sex life affects your wellbeing – emotionally and physically! Sexual freedom and contentedness are a right!
I am an educator, empowerment coach, writer, psychologist, psychotherapist, sex therapist and sexpert. Look, you have a right to feel confident and empowered, not just for the short term, but for the rest of your life and whatever is going on in your life, I can help you work it out.
Explore my site! Read my articles and get in touch with me if I can help you further.
Ella.💕
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If you have any queries, feel free to reach out to me at ✉️ hello@ellaadiar.com.
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So, gents...
What Do You Think About Sex?
If I asked you how you feel about eating a warm and moist chocolate mud cake, with vanilla ice-cream and extra fudge sauce you would honestly share with me how it makes you feel. If I ask you how you feel about sex, the chances are that you will most likely feel uncomfortable and not share so much. Why is that? Both are tapping into your personal areas of desire, sensation, stimulation and taste but one is acceptable to openly discuss and the other, well, you have been raised to ‘not’ discuss it openly quite the same way.
How we experience sexuality has so much to do with our bodies; how we like to touch, be touched, and how we respond to different kinds of stimulation but also what we have been taught about sex since our first memory. We have learned how to think about sex, what to think about sex and what we know and believe about relationships. Every single one of us has learned differently, so each of us have different ideas. Is it any wonder why it can become so complicated to discuss… or even do?
Gents, you may have been raised to never discuss masturbation, but everyone knows most of you do it. The chances are, the women you know do too, but they have been raised in a society that restricts a woman’s sexual freedom and fantasy, yet for a man it can be considered acceptable. Self-stimulation is totally inappropriate to talk about and maybe even consider (or so some think). What about your sexual fantasies? Do not tell me you don’t have one… if you think about it enough you will come up with something… But do you feel you can share it with anyone? If you want to try something a little different, then you must be weird? (Err no you are not!) Maybe you want your other half to do something that you have never explored before, but you do not know how to ask them? Perhaps you have a sexual kink but have lived with the secret. Maybe you struggle to get aroused? How you feel about all of these is neither right or wrong, but what is right is if you want to have a go at a new experience and explore your sexuality some more, then you can!
Physiological issues impact our sex lives, but more often it is in our minds. Medical conditions can severely affect our sexual abilities but so can our thoughts. Gents, if you are not ‘feeling it’ then neither will you ‘want’ to feel it. Feeling desirable, or comfortable in your skin, does not just apply to ladies. If you are stressed, sick, tired, or uncomfortable with your body, are you going to give yourself permission to enjoy intimacy?
Our upbringings, parents, sibling, educators, the media and partners all have contributed to our opinions of sex and sexual acts, but this can change at any time and the only one responsible for your sexual freedom is Mr Sutra himself! No… that was a total fib… it is YOU!
What is considered normal or abnormal largely comes from cultural beliefs and you my friend, can go ahead, and do whatever the heck you feel like with your body. Of course, a few provisos exist – it must legal, it cannot impact yours or anyone else’s health or safety of course, it feels comfortable to you and lastly, you have consented. If you tick each of these boxes, then you are free to explore!
If you are still not convinced, then explore my site a little more before you explore yourself! I can help you with whatever it is holding you back.
