Gents – here it is! A basic 5 tips, step-by-step guide to what your missus might want and what you need to do. I am going to keep it short, simple and straight to the point.
- Your Woman Wants an Emotional Attachment
This is the basic truth. Sex will not have much meaning to her until she feels that emotional attachment with you, and we know that you need the physical before you will allow yourself to feel the emotional.
SOLUTION: Stop what you are doing occasionally and listen to her talk, ask her questions and smile when she smiles. All she wants is to ‘feel’ you care and ‘feel’ you make that bit of effort. Touch her, look at her, watch her and appreciate her.
- Your Woman Wants to Feel Desirable
This ultimately starts and finishes with her, not you, but you have so much control here!
SOLUTION: Pay her a compliment once or twice a day. Say thank you for the small gestures that she does and acknowledge her for the role she plays in your life. Think about the qualities in her that you adore and tell her! When she does make love with you, look at her as though you want to eat her up. This might sound cheesy but embrace her and she will ‘feel’ this. At the end of the day, it will be worth it.
- Your Woman Wants to Satisfy You
Ironically, satisfying your woman probably means more to you, than you having an orgasm. It is quite the same for her. If you do not get an erection, she thinks it is because of her. If you do not climax, she thinks it is because of her. Your woman most probably blames herself for everything…
SOLUTION: You need to tell her that satisfying her is a priority to you. You also need to share that this sometimes adds inexplainable pressure to you, which may affect you sustaining an erection. Do you know what? If you can have this conversation with her, your vulnerability will encourage intimacy and a deeper connection for her, which links in with number 1.
- Your Woman Wants You to Make the Effort
You work bloody hard. Your job is your focus all day and sometimes you do not have time for what sometimes awaits you when you walk in through the door, be it family pressures, a second job or added expectations on you. Guess what? Tough!!! You can always tap into your energy reserves and make a teeny tiny bit of effort. If you cannot make the effort at 6.30pm when you get home, fall into the habit of making the effort at a random time during the day when you do have the energy. You have put up with so much through the day, that finding maybe two minutes to ‘invest into your partner’ is not too much to ask. If it is, then you do not deserve her!
- Quit Sweating the Small Stuff
Seriously! You men have a habit of focusing on little tiny things. Some guys get home from work, see the mess and ask,”what have you been doing all day?” Noooooo!!!! Try only commenting on positive stuff hey? You watch her mood improve dramatically when you see the mess, or you notice that one thing not done that you asked for (you asked every day for the past month and it still isn’t done) but you do not make that snide comment about it. Be nice. Be kind and just shut up otherwise.
You want that deep connection with her? She wants it with you! It is all about compromise. Do some of the tips on the list and you will find she is happier, more open and keener for physical intimacy.
Do all the tips above, and she will be wanting you more, craving you more and desiring more sex…
Ella.💕